As I snuggled into my boyfriend’s chest one day, his light blue eyes looked down at me and he asked me, “Do you think things can be too good to be true?”
And I had no response for him, not at the time.
Perhaps it is because he has yet to experience the avalanche of thoughts that tend to tumble out of my brain when I’m asked a question that I hadn’t already considered. The back-and-forth, give-and-take, yes-or-no cascade of thoughts that are how I make decisions came to mind, but I closed my mouth and mulled them over silently. More than likely because we haven’t been dating terribly long, and crazy should be allowed to creep up on him so he can accept it gradually, rather than drown in it.
It took me at least a week, but I think I’m prepared to present an answer to this [what should be simple] question: I do not think things can be too good to be true.
I think things can sound too good to be true, things can look too good to be true, but I don’t think things can actually be too good to be true.
Allow me to elaborate, say a car salesman tells you all of these things about a car he wants you to buy, it sounds too good to be true, and it is, because he has slightly falsified or elaborated what he claims, or he is not telling you the whole truth. If you are driving past a home and you think “My, that is my dream house!” and without stepping foot inside of it you purchase it because it looks too good to be true. But to your horror, when you get inside of it, the inside has mold and water damage, and a couple dead bodies. Yup, that house looked too good to be true, and was, because you did not see all of it.
But I do not believe things can actually be too good to be true because once something has reached a state of being, it really is that. So it can’t be too good to be true, because it just is that awesome.
Your best friend that you met in kindergarten did not seem too good to be true, you just thought they were awesome and went with it. Your favorite novel did not seem too good to be true half-way through, you didn’t abandon it for fear of what was on the last page, you just thought it was the most wondrous thing you’d ever read.
Now that’s not to say that things don’t turn out bad in the end, because, well, that does happen. But I don’t think that made them “Too good to be true” at the beginning, just not wholly known.
I find that most people who question whether things are ‘too good to be true’ are not used to having nice or happy things happen to them. So to me, it is a pessimistic phrase, and although I can be terribly sarcastic (bordering on mean) I am not a pessimistic person by nature, and so perhaps that is my particular distaste for the phrase. If something exciting is happening and you are busy questioning “is this too good to be true?” the exciting thing might just pass you by, or you are so worried about being hurt that you refuse to take part in “too good to be true”.
So I guess if I find something that is actually good, rather than question whether it is too good to be true, I accept that I deserve good things to happen to me and just go with it.
I don’t know if that cleared it up, or if I just talked in circles, but, there’s my opinion on the phrase “Too good to be true”.